Tuesday, November 30, 2021

Defining Miracles


White Pasque flower seed head found in New Mexico.
Dictionary definitions of “miracle” include:
  1. a surprising and welcome event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws and is therefore considered to be the work of a divine agency.
  2. a highly improbable or extraordinary event, development, or accomplishment that brings very welcome consequences.
  3. an amazing product or achievement, or an outstanding example of something.
Regardless of how we define miracles, they produce a sense of awe and wonder and reverence. Those are powerful, positive emotions which make us happier, healthier and more successful in our relationships and friendships.

If our definition of miracles is limited to things like number one above, events like walking on water, raising the dead, or even winning the SuperLotto, we aren’t going to see many of them. Therefore, we won’t have many experiences that produce those positive emotions of awe, wonder and reverence.

Broadening our definition to include number two still leaves miracles in the “highly improbable” zone.

Number three, however, opens the door to a new perspective. Rather than waiting for miracles to come our way, what if we turned the definition around? What if we actively looked for anything that produced the feelings of awe, wonder and reverence? What if we actually cultivated those feelings by seeing the miraculousness in everything around us.

Winning the lottery would be, for most folks, a miracle of the definition-two level. Hoping for that, we buy a ticket and cross our fingers. When the machine says, “Sorry not a winner,” as it does in almost all cases, we feel a sense of disappointment. Disappointment is not a positive, powerful feeling. The more we play, the more we lose. Disappointment grows and steals away our happiness.

For quite a long time, I bought a Powerball ticket once or twice a week, generally when I stopped at a gas station for what I called “candy coffee,” the hot, sweet, caramel-colored, caffeinated stuff that comes out of machines. It became a habit. I told myself it was a small, harmless indulgence. (If you know what I’m talking about, see #1 below.)

What I began to notice about the Powerball tickets was that, even though I did not expect to win, I felt a surge of disappointment when I didn’t. Finally, sanity returned and I broke the gas station fix for both candy coffee and Powerball tickets and shifted my harmless indulgence to flowers.

A couple of weeks ago, I bought a dahlia plant from Costco. $12 for a two-foot plant covered with radiant, plumy-violet, saucer-sized flowers. I cut a single stem and put it in a slender glass vase filled with marbles. When it faded, I replaced it with another one, and another. There were enough to share with a friend. All of the original blossoms are gone now but new buds promise another round. 

That plant, for me, is a miracle. It’s a color that I don’t see often and it fills me with awe, wonder and reverence for its beauty, simplicity, and abundance.

As I write this, I realize I didn’t count it as a miracle this week. I should have.

Miracles Defined

In order to have the broadest possible playing field for attracting the feelings of awe, wonder and reverence, the definition of miracles used by Gratitude Mojo is "Unexpected delights that make you say, “Wow!”



Plus Dottie’s Weight Loss Zones provides this information:
French Vanilla Cappuccino, 20 oz (360 calories/13 g fat/2 g fiber/57 g carbs) 8 points (my normal was the 16 oz … 288 calories of pretty yucky stuff. At least the sand didn’t have calories.)

Thought Leader: Jon Kabat-Zinn

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“Mindfulness is a way of living your life 
as if it really mattered. 
Defined as moment to moment, 
non-judgmental awareness.” 
-- Jon Kabat-Zinn, Life Is Right Now
YouTube video

"The latest research in mindfulness is showing that it is actually possible to pay attention in systematic ways that change the way the brain is wired, changes the way the brain functions, changes the very structure of the brain in ways that enhance well-being, and clarity, and multiple intelligences."

Jon Kabat-Zinn is a professor of medicine emeritus and founding director of the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program in the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of Massachusetts Medical School.

He is the author of many books, including the best-selling Full Catastrophe Living and Coming to our Senses.

“Feelings, whether of compassion or irritation, should be welcomed, recognized, and treated on an absolutely equal basis; because both are ourselves. The tangerine I am eating is me. The mustard greens I am planting are me. I plant with all my heart and mind. I clean this teapot with the kind of attention I would have were I giving the baby Buddha or Jesus a bath. Nothing should be treated more carefully than anything else. In mindfulness, compassion, irritation, mustard green plant, and teapot are all sacred.”

More about Jon Kabat-Zinn: http://www.mindfulnesscds.com/

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Monday, November 22, 2021

An incomplete thank you for the miracles of the world

2017: On this day as I begin my second year of gratitude practice, I give thanks for where I am and where Ive been and hope this poem makes up for some of the moments of gratitude Ive missed along the way.

for all the people I never thanked:

the authors, teachers, artists, carpenters,

the fighters of fires, the doctors of disease,
those who built the roads through the mountains and deserts,
those who grew the vegetables and fruits for my table,
all the meals and makers-of-meals who went unblessed,
all the garments and sewers and sellers of them 
that kept me dressed,
and the thousands, millions, of other unthanked souls
who have made my life possible, made it a joy.

for all the beauty I forgot to acknowledge:

the mountains, meadows, moonglows and manatees,
the soft summer days, the snow-covered pines,
the cactus blossoms of spring, the yellow aspens of fall,
all the trees I never thanked for my breath,
all the clouds I never thanked for their beckonings,
all the rocks I never thanked for their stories,
all the rivers and lakes, puddles and ponds,
the oceans of water that refreshed my days,
never once asking for my thanks.

for all the people who made me laugh or cry:
the jokesters, writers, actors, makers of movies,
the merry whistlers and designers of Tilt-a-Whirls,
all you bubbling fountains of mirth and magic
who brought forth giggles and guffaws, chuckles and chortles,
tears and torment, glimpses into alien worlds and other hearts,
graciously accepting my laughter and tears as thanks enough.


to all of you ... friends and family,

those recognized and total strangers,
finally and utterly incompletely,
thanks. ... Thanks! ... Thank YOU!

Gratitude Benefit: Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not a simple act, nor generally an easy one. Marina Cantacuzino, founder of The Forgiveness Project, says,
"All too often we sanitize and simplify forgiveness, when in fact it’s an arduous, exhausting task — messy, risky and unpredictable.”
For some people, forgiveness is an interpersonal act and requires remorse and a request for forgiveness. For others it’s part of a personal, spiritual journey. Author Tony Wilkinson states,
"This process (of forgiveness) is part of your inner life, your inner journey and doesn’t depend on them (perpetrators), which is why insisting on remorse before forgiveness puts the power in the wrong hands."
This journal addresses the inner journey of forgiveness and does not take the hard work of forgiving lightly.

Special thanks to the following for their beautiful thoughts on forgiveness: 
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    Gratitude Benefit: Optimism & Generosity

    Christopher Bergland in Psychology Today states,
    “Recent studies have shown that generosity and gratitude go hand in hand, both at a psychological and neurobiological level. Generosity and gratitude are separate sides of the same coin. They are symbiotic.
    "Fortunately, each of us has the free will to kickstart the neurobiological feedback loop—and upward spiral of well-being—that is triggered by small acts of generosity and gratitude each and every day of our lives.
    "Why not practice a small act of generosity today?”
    Special thanks to the following for their thoughts on gratitude and optimism and generosity:
    Pursuit-of-Happines.com
    Martha Beck
    Fast Company magazine

    Gratitude Mojo is the new, advanced journal for gratitude practice which takes you even deeper into the amazing gifts of gratitude. 

    Gratitude Benefit: Passion & Purpose

    "When we brim, when we shimmer,
    when we glow with love for something, anything,
    we become conduits of magic,
    and we ourselves become gifts to the world."

    -- Melissa Studdard, poet

    Researchers focused on developing gratitude and purpose among adolescents report,
    "Whereas gratitude involves recognizing all the good things that someone receives from the world, purpose entails considering how one can contribute to the world around them. 
    “Indeed, we find these constructs work in tandem; when people feel grateful, they naturally tend to turn towards thinking about how they can give back. In addition, expressing gratitude strengthens relationships, which can then help to guide and support the development of purpose. 
    “Therefore, we believe that cultivating a deeper sense of gratitude will help individuals to find a sense of purpose in life."
    From: Fostering Gratitude and Purpose among Adolescents
    We are a team of researchers at Claremont Graduate University (http://sites.cgu.edu/bronk/) and California State University, Dominguez Hills (http://www.csudhnews.com/2012/09/bono-giacomo/). This project is generously funded by the John Templeton Foundation, in collaboration with UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center.
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    Gratitude Mojo is the new, advanced journal for gratitude practice which takes you even deeper into the amazing gifts of gratitude.